DFW in LAX: Or, the Story of How I got onto the Court of the NBA All-Star Celebrity Game

So, the last few weeks were a bit tough, but this last weekend, which I am still recovering from, was amazing. So amazing I lost my voice! Happy Valentine's Day! My lady knew I had to be in LA this weekend, and the only flight that worked was on Valentine's day. Whatta lady I got! I fly out early Wednesday. I get to my cousin's house, and he leaves to SF for work. My brother is busy working. He tells me about the Bird Scooters. Have y'all seen these?? They are everywhere, and super easy to use! Lots of fun zipping around the area on one of these, and they will even give you a helmet! So, I end up chilling solo in Santa Monica. And, that is no problem! I realized, I can talk to anyone, anywhere, about anything. I end up meeting a South African dude, and his buddies. He works in Animation, and did some of the work on some kids movie about snow that was famous... you know the one. We end up exchanging Linkedin information, and cracking jokes. They leave and send me to the…

ABOUT ME - My Personal Journal

I finally figured out what I am good at.

It took me 37 years, learning the power of value & respect, and letting go of a lot of ego to get here.

The problem is, I don't know what to do now that I know what I am good at.
My special gift is one thing that is really two: Charisma and the Gift of Gab. 

You know that old wives tale from the sea: "Jack of all trades, Master of none"? That's me.

I am sub-par to average at everything. I know a little about a wide range of topics. Plumbing to cryptocurrency, pop culture to what's going on in politics, local and independent to the titans of industries, I know my way around most topics. 

But, that's never been something I could use, except on Jeopardy.

I've tried out - the Bible, Opera, and Classic British Literature are my three weakest areas. 
So, Jeopardy is out. What now?

I am a big Tim Ferriss fan, and he always talks about being in the top percentile of things. This is what I am in the top percentile of. I finally figured this shit out. 

I am good at meeting and talking to people. Like really good.

I have had to figure out this gift. It has worked out for me my whole life. No one ever taught me how to capitalize on it. No one taught me how to read the room. 

I had to learn lessons painstakingly. Over and over again. 

Once, I stole a ring from a street-vendor when I was a kid. My brother kicked my ass and taught me the value of empathy. I did not know that this woman lived and worked in her hut, trying to sell a ring I stole from her. I took food out of that family's mouth. 

I have gotten my asked kicked pushing the boundaries of my comedy, making jokes at inappropriate times. I have seen the line of where to stop, then knowingly cross it, just to entertain my friends, and see what happened next.

Learning and watching for reactions. Seeing what humans do in the situations I can lead them in to.  

My charisma, and my laugh are fucking infectious.

I didn't ever take advantage of knowingly. I have never known how.

This charisma allows for special things to just happen. My gift of gab, adds to it.

I can be as quiet as a mouse or as large as the room I am in. I can command an audience, and make others want to join in the fun.

I can read a fucking room and I notice people. I notice you, and I notice your quarks. I notice what makes you individual and unique from every other person in the room. 

I notice the darting eye movement at an inappropriate joke. I notice the open posture, the details of your hand in a handshake, the yawn you make when you are uncomfortable.

I notice the drinks you have had, and when those drinks make you more vulnerable and open. I notice the sadness in the eyes behind the happy smile. I notice the hidden aggression of the man quietly arguing with his wife across the room.

I. Fucking. Notice.

I didn't know what I was doing when I was using these skills, unknowingly, in college. That's when they started to show themselves. I became hyper-aware. I could make a girl laugh. I could make a hostile situation comedic.

I also took advantage of people, I hurt people, all while learning about my skills. 

I didn't know what this gift of speech did to others. I learned how to understand the value of my voice through years of trial-and-error. 

It took a shitload of the above to get here, but, man, there was a lot of good shit that happened because of it along the way, as well!

All through my life, it's been there. Waiting for me to utilize it. I finally understand it, but now I am stuck on how to monetize it.

What's the role here? What's my move? How do I find a use for this? Is there a mentor I can look for? What is the next step? Now, fucking what? You know?

That's where I am, currently. Stuck. Wondering how this combines with my passion for my local city, giving back, education, technology, and every other fucking thing I am interested in.

Fuck me.

You got any ideas for me? Help a brother out.


Popular posts from this blog

This Week in DFW

1st Post on my new blog!

DFW in LAX: Or, the Story of How I got onto the Court of the NBA All-Star Celebrity Game